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Okay, guys. Valentine’s Day can sometimes be tricky. Here’s a little poem to help you out:
Mom’s of littles, amiright?
It’s not that we don’t love being around our husband or children. In fact, you all bring us so much joy and happiness and we’re incredibly thankful that we have you in our lives. It’s just that… sometimes… we kind of, sort of need a break. And I talk about a Valentine’s Activity you can do for your kids here, but this time let’s talk about you men can do for your woman instead.
Valentine’s Day always has so much added pressure to it. With my husband and I, we like to have the attitude that we show love to each other every day, so that a day designated for it is just another day. But then if you don’t acknowledge it or do just a little something, then it just seems like you forgot or someone ends up feeling at least a little disappointed. Okay, okay, that someone is me. And I know, mixed messages are confusing.
One year, my husband suggested taking me out to a nice restaurant. How sweet is that? But then this is what went on in my head:
I bet the restaurant jacks up their prices just because it’s Valentine’s Day. Oh, and I bet they squeeze in extra tables so they can seat more. That means that we’ll pay an arm and a leg, but also have no privacy while we eat. What if we want to flirt with each other. I don’t want strangers hearing our conversation. Wait, and then what would I wear? Do I have time to squeeze in a shower before he picks me up? I definitely need to make time to shave. Do I have enough concealer for these bags under my eyes since my son never sleeps? Ever. Hmm, I know he likes when I wear that one dress, but it’s so uncomfortable. I’ll have to wear shape wear underneath, but that means it’s gonna squeeze into me when we sit. And there goes any room for eating. But I need to be sitting, because I can barely walk in the shoes that go with that dress. But I can’t tell him that because they were a total splurge present on my last birthday and he’s starting to notice that I never wear them. Oh, but wait, he said that he had reservations, but did he set up a baby-sitter? Is that something I need to do? It’s a school night so we couldn’t be out late even if we can get someone to watch our kiddo. But that’s probably good anyway because it’s a full moon the next night which means he’s going to be all over the place and I’ll need as much sleep as I can get to be ready for it. Hmmm, I’m thinking maybe we should just stay home. We’ll save money, stress, and I’ve got a mountain of laundry to get through anyway. There’s always next year.
This is just a little of what goes through our minds when we women are contemplating something.
So what are some ideas that she REALLY wants for Valentine’s Day? Check out my helpful list:
Look, in case you just skimmed over my drawn-out thought process above, restaurants on Valentine’s Day are over-rated. The best part about them is that we don’t have to cook or handle the clean-up. So what makes it a wonderful gift is if you handle that part. Do the cooking and make sure to clean up the Kitchen after yourself, and I’m telling you, it’s GOLD! You say, “But I’m a terrible cook!” That’s okay!
It’s 2018 and there are so many conveniences to make your life easy. Grab some takeout from her favorite place! Or follow this not-so-secret recipe: Grab a rotisserie chicken! You can even purchase already-made sides at most grocery stores too. And go ahead and turn the oven on low and do the “I made this myself” farce. We love it. We know the truth, but we love the effort!
Here’s a little advice, skip the heart-shaped box. It’s a rip-off. And let’s be honest, how many people have you met who actually like every type of chocolate in there? I mean, I know I don’t like coconut and I always bite into a coconut chocolate thinking it’s actually vanilla cream. Ugh. The worst.
If you have your heart set on giving some sweets to your sweet (and yes, the majority of us women love our chocolate), melt some chocolate to dip some fruit into fondue-style. Think outside the heart-shaped box.
Grab a bag of chocolate chips (bonus points for knowing if she likes milk chocolate or semi-sweet chips) and Google “double boiler.” Orrrr look for a package of chocolate that they specially make to put in the microwave. It’s a thing. The fruit satiates our sweet tooth, and let’s be honest… we’re not as bloated when you try to make some moves. Just saying.
But let’s just say that we wouldn’t mind getting chocolates (the ones you know we like) on any other day. Like a Tuesday. Tuesday’s are a great day for chocolates.
Okay, so this one might be on the fence. I’m not gonna lie. Flowers are great. They’re pretty and smell great. And bonus points if you send them to us at work. We love the effort. But we love the effort more than the actual flowers. And Valentine’s Day flowers are, well, another rip-off.
The flowers die and that makes us sad. Especially when it’s something like lilies that make a mess when they wilt. But plants last a whole lot longer, and isn’t that what you want when thinking about your love?
Handwritten love notes ALWAYS. WIN. To be honest, this is what speaks to my heart over everything else mentioned above. Saying I love you in more than three words turns us to mush! It’s the time and thought placed into writing out your heart, something that isn’t shared with anyone else. It melts our hearts and makes us fall in love all over again!
Store-bought cards are nice too. I mean, as long as you read it ahead of time to make sure it fits our relationship. You know that scene in Indiana Jones: Raiders of the Lost Ark where he finally comes face to face with the golden statue after braving deadly traps? Yeah, that’s how we picture you searching for the perfect card.
So do us a favor and if you are going to skip writing a handwritten love note, at least choose the perfect card and tell us why it is perfect for our relationship and that you needed to hunt for especially for us. (Yup, purchasing a store-bought card and slapping your name on it isn’t nearly as romantic as writing something from the heart within.)
Okay, still looking for some bonus suggestions?
- Fill up her gas tank without her knowing
- Take the kids out so she can have some time to read that book she’s been hoping to find time for (or watch that reality show you hate)
- Clean the bathrooms (or any room for that matter). Hey, you use it too!
- Get in the habit of cleaning the sink out after you shave – the little things speak volumes!
- Notice how your kid says “Mom!” 52 billion times a day, even when you also happen to be right there. Step right in and ask what he/she needs. It’s not that our intelligence dips after becoming a parent, it’s that our thoughts are interrupted several times a minute each and every day so that we start to feel like we’re losing our minds.
There you have it. The 4 Things She REALLY Wants for Valentine’s Day with a couple bonuses thrown in. Ladies, leave this article out where he can see it. Let it be a conversation starter to help each other out. I mean, he honestly wants to do something you’d like. Hallmark and Kay’s bombard him with their ideas; why not give him a roadmap of what you’d really like? Trust me, you’ll both appreciate getting it out in the open.