National Adoption Month Guest Post
With November being National Adoption Month, I have been thinking about how fortunate I am to witness the various adoption adventures of people I know. One of them comes from today’s guest blog post from my sister-in-Christ Kim Meyer of Relentless Women Warriors.
Kim and I went to the same elementary school together. She moved away, but through the power of social media, we have been able to reconnect. I have been following her story for a couple of years now and am prompted to pray for her – and her growing family. Her story of hope and trusting God, despite the obstacles they face, is one I want to share with each of you! I hope you are encouraged by their resiliency and faith and that you take time to pray for them in their current season.
Remaining Hopeful in Adoption – Kim’s Story
Our family began our adoption journey in September 2013 and like most, my husband Clayton and I had absolutely no idea the rollercoaster our family was stepping onto.
When we began, we were initially told that most families brought their children home from Haiti in 18-24 months. Very early into our journey, big changes were taking place within Haiti’s government, affecting the adoption process. Little did we know that those changes were going to add years to our timeline.
We were hoping to adopt one child – a boy – under the age of 5 so that we didn’t break birth order with our two biological kiddos. In June 2015, God rocked our world by showing me a photo of two Haitian brothers that were 10 and 11. The moment I saw this photo I was overcome with emotion because I knew I was looking at my sons. It’s hard to describe, but I just knew those two boys were supposed to be in our family.
Clayton and I spent weeks and weeks praying and fasting about this massive decision to adopt two older boys. God led us to say, “yes!” A month later, our adoption agency called to inform us that they had just found out our boys had an older brother who was 15 and he was just three months away from aging out of the system. We were asked to prayerfully consider adopting all three. We spent the next few weeks praying for God’s direction and He led us to say, “yes” to all three!
It has now been over four years since we began our adoption journey and we’re still waiting to bring Meridenord [Married-No] (17), Carlo (14) and Paterson (12) home.
Clayton and I traveled to Haiti to meet our boys in November 2016. Our bonding trip allowed us fifteen days together and God gave us the most amazing time getting to know our sons! Since then, I have traveled back to visit them two additional times.
I began to dread the end of my visits with my sons because I knew I had to leave Haiti without them at the end of my trip. The hardest part of hugging them goodbye was not knowing when we would be together again. I have left my sons three times now and each time it feels as though my heart has been ripped out of me. Leaving my children in an orphanage is the most unnatural and helpless feeling.
This is when the hope God offers us goes from something you talk about in church, to something you cling to with every fiber of your being, dozens of times a day. As I have prayed over the past four years, begging God to hurry up our paperwork so our sons can come home, He has consistently given me the hope necessary to get to the next step. After that step, He gives me more hope to get me to the next step and the next after that.
Not once has God abandoned our family. He has been with us through every set back and delay only to show months later that it wasn’t actually a delay, it was a setup for His provision.
God has given me many verses to cling to in this season of waiting. Lamentations 3:21-23 is among my favorites,
Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope: Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.
Throughout this season of waiting, my relationship with God has grown exponentially as I have had to repeatedly lay down my expectations and desires to be able to place my trust in Him and His timing. I’ve learned that it’s simply not possible to hold onto my plans and God’s at the same time. It’s one or the other, but not both.
Ephesians 3:14-20 continues to remind me of the role prayer plays in my life. If I want my roots to grow down deep into God then I must make prayer a priority in my life. Prayer is my lifeline to God! My spiritual growth is 100% dependent upon my prayer life and the days that I feel worn out and weary are the days that I haven’t spent enough time on my knees with God. It’s through prayer that God gives me the hope and strength I so desperately need.
I don’t know when we will cross the finish line with our sons, but I am confident that God will bring them home soon! He will walk across that finish line with our family as we close this chapter and begin a brand-new one as a family of seven.
About the Author:
Kim has been married to the love of her life, Clayton, for 14.5 years. They have 2 biological children and are a few weeks away from bringing their three sons home from Haiti. They have been working for over 4 years to finalize their adoption.
After a long season of infertility that included six miscarriages, God led Kim to write the first miscarriage reading plan, “Walking Through Miscarriage with God” for Youversion, the free Bible app. Kim has also published two additional reading plans on Youversion, “Our Modern Warfare (part 1 & part 2).”
When Kim is not homeschooling her children or writing, you can almost always find her in the kitchen baking or at the lake fishing for bass.
Sincerely Anchored’s mission is to Encourage Women to Live Authentically with Hope.
Thank you, Kim, for living that mission!
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